Jill Scott Is 'Hurt' By Black Men Dating White Women

This story has been buzzing the net now for a few days i guess am a bit late blogging about this, but i just had to comment and share my own view on this whole topic. i must say i love Jill Scott adn i agree with the article she wrote for Essence magazine. Jill Scott, who was recently left to be a single mother after having a child with a man she's been with for years, has recently opened up about the idea of interracial relationships and even penned this article describing her personal experience with the topic, Here is the article.


My new friend is handsome, African-American, intelligent and seemingly wealthy. He is an athlete, loves his momma, and is happily married to a White woman. I admit when I saw his wedding ring, I privately hoped. But something in me just knew he didn’t marry a sister. Although my guess hit the mark, when my friend told me his wife was indeed Caucasian, I felt my spirit…wince. I didn’t immediately understand it. My face read happy for you. My body showed no reaction to my inner pinch, but the sting was there, quiet like a mosquito under a summer dress.

Was I jealous? Did the reality of his relationship somehow diminish his soul’s credibility? The answer is not simple. One could easily dispel the wince as racist or separatist, but that’s not how I was brought up. I was reared in a Jehovah’s Witness household. I was taught that every man should be judged by his deeds and not his color, and I firmly stand where my grandmother left me. African people worldwide are known to be welcoming and open-minded. We share our culture sometimes to our own peril and most of us love the very notion of love. My position is that for women of color, this very common “wince” has solely to do with the African story in America.

When our people were enslaved, “Massa” placed his Caucasian woman on a pedestal. She was spoiled, revered and angelic, while the Black slave woman was overworked, beaten, raped and farmed out like cattle to be mated. She was nothing and neither was our Black man. As slavery died for the greater good of America, and the movement for equality sputtered to life, the White woman was on the cover of every American magazine. She was the dazzling jewel on every movie screen, the glory of every commercial and television show. She was unequivocally the standard of beauty for this country, firmly unattainable to anyone not of her race. We daughters of the dust were seen as ugly, nappy mammies, good for day work and unwanted children, while our men were thought to be thieving, sex-hungry animals with limited brain capacity.

We reflect on this awful past and recall that if a Black man even looked at a White woman, he would have been lynched, beaten, jailed or shot to death. In the midst of this, Black women and Black men struggled together, mourned together, starved together, braved the hoses and vicious police dogs and died untimely on southern back roads together. These harsh truths lead to what we really feel when we see a seemingly together brother with a Caucasian woman and their children. That feeling is betrayed. While we exert efforts to raise our sons and daughters to appreciate themselves and respect others, most of us end up doing this important work alone, with no fathers or like representatives, limited financial support (often court-enforced) and, on top of everything else, an empty bed. It’s frustrating and it hurts!

Our minds do understand that people of all races find genuine love in many places. We dig that the world is full of amazing options. But underneath, there is a bite, no matter the ointment, that has yet to stop burning. Some may find these thoughts to be hurtful. That is not my intent. I’m just sayin’.


Now after reading this article i absolutely get where jill scott is coming from, i sometimes feel the pinch too, and from previous discussion i have had with friends i realised they also share similar same views on this inter-racial topic. I just dont get why there is a big fuss about this article with people calling Jill Scott a racist, i dont see anything racist in this article. I feel that black woman are not currently being sought after by other races of men at the same rate that black "brothers" are seeking other races of women. This obviously then leaves black women with out men at all especially if we only want black men. dont get me wrong i am all for love, happiness and family i just feel that sometimes other women are being given a choice on who to love and we many times are just picking up the left overs. we should never be so naive to think that we are equal.

Black people in general are not seen as equal in the society we live in. i find that we have to struggle five times as hard and continue to have to prove ourselves, be it in an interview for a job or just chances in life. The evidence of this shows in the statistics of black people still living in poverty, dying from simple treatable illness than whites people. Its is obvious that black people have a history of being treated unfairly and suppressed, and all this can be traced back to slavery. The media also have a huge part to play,in my opinion brainwashing black brothers into thirst for the white sisters and fundamentally rejecting the black sister.

Now I don't want to be seen as a "HATER" on love or mixed relationships, but this are my views and opinions on this very sensitive issue. Obviously me being in a black relationship my opinions will differ, I just find it really fascinating how interracial relationship works.